The Remains of the Day - Relationships

The structure of the film has two main parts:
1 - Butler Stevens sets off on a trip to see if he former house maid would join his staff again.
2 - Episodic situations from the past that show Butler Steven's relationship with Lord Darlington, Miss Kenton, his staff, and the aristocracy of the day.

The story shows us Steven's attempt to form a new bond, a new relationship only to fail.  He strives to have a personal relationship.  All his relationships are either public.  Or private(his books).

He, the dignified butler, is the last remains of a former age.  He, like Lord Darlington, fail to update and connect, form a new relationship with the present.

When Hughe Grant's character asks Steven's to have a drink with him, Steven's won't.  He finds it hard to sit back and chat.  He's constantly doing his job.  His public relationship in which he doesn't argue about issues but simply does tasks consumes him.

This is a story in which the main character does not Change Relationships and does Not Grow and does Not Positively Resolve the Situation.

And yet I fucking love it.